Beware, First kiss might go terribly wrong
There are many ways that first kiss can go terribly wrong, but most are easily avoided.
BEWARE:
Moving too quickly
Be careful not to startle the kiss - watch and wait for the signal to proceed. If you aren't sensitive in your kissing, how empathetic and caring can you be about the rest of the relationship...
Wet, sloshy, squishy, fishy
If you or the kissee need to wipe your lips, or chin, dry after the kiss - well, it wasn't 'perfect' was it?
Smash-mouth smothering kiss of death
Avoid the over-passionate, insensitive kiss that leaves the kissee gasping for air.
Chapped, Cactus Lips
There's a delicate balance to lip moisture equation. The last thing you want to do is drool on your partner, but you definitely don't want to leave scars with crispy, chafed lips.
Too much Tongue and Too Much, Too Soon
Keep that tongue tucked away until you get the right signals, then apply with caution - later
Dragon Breath
A mint or two, breath saver, gum, spray - anything to get rid of gunk-mouth.
Weak, Wobbly or Wooden Passionless Pecks
The swoop in and bounce out kiss is simply meaningless - unless you want to impart a "let's just sort-of be friends" type of message.
Smacking, Clacking Loud Kisses
The old "clack and smack" kills romance in a flash.
BEWARE:
Moving too quickly
Be careful not to startle the kiss - watch and wait for the signal to proceed. If you aren't sensitive in your kissing, how empathetic and caring can you be about the rest of the relationship...
Wet, sloshy, squishy, fishy
If you or the kissee need to wipe your lips, or chin, dry after the kiss - well, it wasn't 'perfect' was it?
Smash-mouth smothering kiss of death
Avoid the over-passionate, insensitive kiss that leaves the kissee gasping for air.
Chapped, Cactus Lips
There's a delicate balance to lip moisture equation. The last thing you want to do is drool on your partner, but you definitely don't want to leave scars with crispy, chafed lips.
Too much Tongue and Too Much, Too Soon
Keep that tongue tucked away until you get the right signals, then apply with caution - later
Dragon Breath
A mint or two, breath saver, gum, spray - anything to get rid of gunk-mouth.
Weak, Wobbly or Wooden Passionless Pecks
The swoop in and bounce out kiss is simply meaningless - unless you want to impart a "let's just sort-of be friends" type of message.
Smacking, Clacking Loud Kisses
The old "clack and smack" kills romance in a flash.
Questions for first kiss
We get so many questions about our first kiss. We are too anxious about our first kiss as any unknown thing can be scary. We've all seen people kiss, either in movies, TV shows or in real life. We want to know how exactly is it done? How do we get over the nervousness and have the perfect kiss?
The first step for the perfect kiss is indeed very difficult, because the first step is finding the one to be kissed. In order to experience a truly wonderful first kiss, it must be done with someone we really care about. Someone whom we've been thinking about day and night. Someone who makes our heart beat faster, and make emotions melt. Kissing the one you love makes it more enjoyable and sensual. Otherwise it's just another kiss and that is boring. So do not kiss someone just to say you've been kissed. Kiss someone that really means something to us.
When Is The Best Time For A First Kiss?
The best time is when the two of you are saying good-bye. This is probably the easiest and most comfortable because it's usually the time when a kiss is expected. It is OK to kiss someone on the first date. This shows that you really enjoy being with this person and want to see them again. But it's not absolutely mandatory that you kiss on the first date. If you miss the opportunity during the first date, definitely make an effort by the second, or at the latest the third. If after that you still haven't kissed then the other person may wonder if you really enjoy being with them. Also, make sure that the two of you are alone to have some privacy during this exciting moment, with no distractions or interruptions.
How Will I Know If That Person Wants To Be Kissed?
You can usually tell by how well the date is going. If there was flirting involved and a sense of romance or passion in the date, then by all means go for it. But if things are matter of fact and the other person seems a bit disinterested in the whole thing, then I would wait until the second date. Also, if there is lots of eye contact and closeness between the two of you, this is a good sign that the other person would like to be kissed.
What Type Of Kiss Should We Use The First Time?
I would suggest starting off slowly. You don't want to scare them away the first time with a lot of tongue and saliva. You want the kiss to be gentle yet exciting. You can do this by approaching with a close-mouthed kiss or a tongueless kiss. Let the kiss be gentle and let it linger. Let the other person yearn for more so that they will be in dire need of another kiss from you the next time the two of you are together.
Will The Other Person Know It's My First Time?
Not at all. Because everyone has a different style and way of kissing. Also, some people are more into strong, passionate kisses while others prefer to start off gently. You won't know what style that person has until you've kissed them a few times, and vice versa. Also, once you've kissed someone a few times your kisses start to meld together, meaning that your styles start to intertwine with one another's. That especially happens when one person didn't realize it was enjoyable to kiss a certain way until they tried it with that person. So then they change their style to this new technique.
How Do I Approach The First Kiss?
This can be done in one of two ways. You can either just do it or you can ask/demand a kiss. Asking for a kiss is gentlemanly but not romantic. After the date is over, when the two of you are alone, tell her/him what a good time you had. Then say something like, "Is it OK if I give you a kiss good-bye?" Of course the other person will know what to expect but it's not very romantic.
But you can demand a kiss. You can say something like, "I'd like to kiss you goodnight" or something along that line. More appropriate I believe.
Just doing it is the best and most romantic way of having the first kiss. It shows that you have enough feelings for that person that you just HAVE to kiss them! The best approach for this is the slow and gentle approach. You're standing in front of them as you're saying good-bye. Then take a step or two towards them, hold their hands in yours and lean towards them. Then give them a gentle, lingering, close-mouthed kiss. An even more romantic approach is to cup their face in your hands. This is extremely exciting when the guy does this to the girl.
First kiss shown in a movie.
How Long Should A First Kiss Last?
A first kiss should only last a few moments. Don't worry about the exact time. Once your lips have touched the other person's lips then give it a few seconds and end the kiss. To end the kiss just gently close your mouth and pull away gently.
If you get carried away and find that you've lost track of time and the kiss is still continuing then that is OK. As long as the other person is reciprocating in the kiss the kiss can continue for as long as you wish.
The first step for the perfect kiss is indeed very difficult, because the first step is finding the one to be kissed. In order to experience a truly wonderful first kiss, it must be done with someone we really care about. Someone whom we've been thinking about day and night. Someone who makes our heart beat faster, and make emotions melt. Kissing the one you love makes it more enjoyable and sensual. Otherwise it's just another kiss and that is boring. So do not kiss someone just to say you've been kissed. Kiss someone that really means something to us.
When Is The Best Time For A First Kiss?
The best time is when the two of you are saying good-bye. This is probably the easiest and most comfortable because it's usually the time when a kiss is expected. It is OK to kiss someone on the first date. This shows that you really enjoy being with this person and want to see them again. But it's not absolutely mandatory that you kiss on the first date. If you miss the opportunity during the first date, definitely make an effort by the second, or at the latest the third. If after that you still haven't kissed then the other person may wonder if you really enjoy being with them. Also, make sure that the two of you are alone to have some privacy during this exciting moment, with no distractions or interruptions.
How Will I Know If That Person Wants To Be Kissed?
You can usually tell by how well the date is going. If there was flirting involved and a sense of romance or passion in the date, then by all means go for it. But if things are matter of fact and the other person seems a bit disinterested in the whole thing, then I would wait until the second date. Also, if there is lots of eye contact and closeness between the two of you, this is a good sign that the other person would like to be kissed.
What Type Of Kiss Should We Use The First Time?
I would suggest starting off slowly. You don't want to scare them away the first time with a lot of tongue and saliva. You want the kiss to be gentle yet exciting. You can do this by approaching with a close-mouthed kiss or a tongueless kiss. Let the kiss be gentle and let it linger. Let the other person yearn for more so that they will be in dire need of another kiss from you the next time the two of you are together.
Will The Other Person Know It's My First Time?
Not at all. Because everyone has a different style and way of kissing. Also, some people are more into strong, passionate kisses while others prefer to start off gently. You won't know what style that person has until you've kissed them a few times, and vice versa. Also, once you've kissed someone a few times your kisses start to meld together, meaning that your styles start to intertwine with one another's. That especially happens when one person didn't realize it was enjoyable to kiss a certain way until they tried it with that person. So then they change their style to this new technique.
How Do I Approach The First Kiss?
This can be done in one of two ways. You can either just do it or you can ask/demand a kiss. Asking for a kiss is gentlemanly but not romantic. After the date is over, when the two of you are alone, tell her/him what a good time you had. Then say something like, "Is it OK if I give you a kiss good-bye?" Of course the other person will know what to expect but it's not very romantic.
But you can demand a kiss. You can say something like, "I'd like to kiss you goodnight" or something along that line. More appropriate I believe.
Just doing it is the best and most romantic way of having the first kiss. It shows that you have enough feelings for that person that you just HAVE to kiss them! The best approach for this is the slow and gentle approach. You're standing in front of them as you're saying good-bye. Then take a step or two towards them, hold their hands in yours and lean towards them. Then give them a gentle, lingering, close-mouthed kiss. An even more romantic approach is to cup their face in your hands. This is extremely exciting when the guy does this to the girl.
First kiss shown in a movie.
How Long Should A First Kiss Last?
A first kiss should only last a few moments. Don't worry about the exact time. Once your lips have touched the other person's lips then give it a few seconds and end the kiss. To end the kiss just gently close your mouth and pull away gently.
If you get carried away and find that you've lost track of time and the kiss is still continuing then that is OK. As long as the other person is reciprocating in the kiss the kiss can continue for as long as you wish.
Questions on Kissing
At which age we start kissing?
There is no age limit for kissing. You can kiss from any age. These days people start kissing in younger ages. But you should kiss when you feel to kiss. This is the most important thing in kissing.
Is it OK to kiss on the first date?
I think it is OK to kiss on the first date. I wouldn't consider making out on the first date, but a good-bye kiss is nice.
How can I spice up my kissing?
There are many kissing styles. You can use any of them according to your taste. First start with simple kiss and go to advanced mode as you gain experience. You can invent your own style of romantic kissing. Also you can kiss different parts of the body for sensual feelings. You can also read the stories of first kiss, romance and love, in advance of kissing to feel more sensual romance.
My boyfriend has a long tongue and he sticks it all the way down my throat. What should I do?
Be honest to yourself and him. Tell him honestly that you would prefer to be kissed with less tongue. That you enjoy the feel of the tip of the tongue. Otherwise, if you don't tell him how will he know? Tell him that you also want some variety and that you found some different types of kisses in this site and would like to try them out. The kiss you are having is similar to French kiss.
I feel like when I am kissing my boyfriend that I breathe too loud on his cheek. Is that normal?
Yes it is absolutely normal. You need not worry.
I'm afraid to kiss my boyfriend because my nose is too big, and it might get in the way and that would be embarrassing. What should I do?
You shouldn't worry about it. Your nose won't get in the way because your heads will be slightly tilted so that the noses won't bump straight on. And even people who have small noses bump occasionally so don't sweat it. Just enjoy it!
I'm a teenager and I haven't been kissed. I have a little sister who is 12 and is already kissing. I am worried about her. Is that the right age to be kissing at?
I think that is pretty young to be kissing, but it seems that these days they're starting younger and younger. Don't compare your inexperience with your sister's experience. Everybody has their first experience at different ages in their lives. I've even had people in their 20's tell me they haven't kissed before. So you're not alone in thinking that you should have kissed by now. There is no age when you should be experiencing your first kiss. When you meet someone right for you who you really care about and who cares about you, that is when you should be having your first kiss. So don't worry. It will happen. And chances are your little sister isn't telling you the whole truth, either.
There is no age limit for kissing. You can kiss from any age. These days people start kissing in younger ages. But you should kiss when you feel to kiss. This is the most important thing in kissing.
Is it OK to kiss on the first date?
I think it is OK to kiss on the first date. I wouldn't consider making out on the first date, but a good-bye kiss is nice.
How can I spice up my kissing?
There are many kissing styles. You can use any of them according to your taste. First start with simple kiss and go to advanced mode as you gain experience. You can invent your own style of romantic kissing. Also you can kiss different parts of the body for sensual feelings. You can also read the stories of first kiss, romance and love, in advance of kissing to feel more sensual romance.
My boyfriend has a long tongue and he sticks it all the way down my throat. What should I do?
Be honest to yourself and him. Tell him honestly that you would prefer to be kissed with less tongue. That you enjoy the feel of the tip of the tongue. Otherwise, if you don't tell him how will he know? Tell him that you also want some variety and that you found some different types of kisses in this site and would like to try them out. The kiss you are having is similar to French kiss.
I feel like when I am kissing my boyfriend that I breathe too loud on his cheek. Is that normal?
Yes it is absolutely normal. You need not worry.
I'm afraid to kiss my boyfriend because my nose is too big, and it might get in the way and that would be embarrassing. What should I do?
You shouldn't worry about it. Your nose won't get in the way because your heads will be slightly tilted so that the noses won't bump straight on. And even people who have small noses bump occasionally so don't sweat it. Just enjoy it!
I'm a teenager and I haven't been kissed. I have a little sister who is 12 and is already kissing. I am worried about her. Is that the right age to be kissing at?
I think that is pretty young to be kissing, but it seems that these days they're starting younger and younger. Don't compare your inexperience with your sister's experience. Everybody has their first experience at different ages in their lives. I've even had people in their 20's tell me they haven't kissed before. So you're not alone in thinking that you should have kissed by now. There is no age when you should be experiencing your first kiss. When you meet someone right for you who you really care about and who cares about you, that is when you should be having your first kiss. So don't worry. It will happen. And chances are your little sister isn't telling you the whole truth, either.
First kiss Preparation
Don't let nerves ruin your first kiss. Kiss for the first time the way you always imagined.
Imagine
Don't worry. We've all got an in-built ability to kiss - even primates do it. So it's a natural phenomenon,a bit like breathing, that is difficult to get wrong, and takes a surprisingly little amount of thought.
Evolution and Mother Nature are on your side - a powerful combination, when all that's going against you are a few nerves, and maybe bad breath. Get yourself in the right frame of mind. Instead of dwelling on potential problems, imagine everything going really well. And when the big moment arrives your positive thinking will take over.
Make it happen
Shyness is a natural part of your first kiss, and this will only be made more embarrassing by having an audience. Do what you can to escape sniggering friends and find some privacy.
If you're so shy you find it difficult to even be near the person you secretly like, think of various kissing related games, such as 'spin the bottle' - where you spin a bottle on the ground, and whoever it points at, you must kiss. Or play Sardines, which doesn't involve kissing, but gives you the chance to seek out the person you want to kiss and hide with them. If it's December, use Christmas to your advantage and grab some mistletoe.
The signs
Try not to worry about rejection, because by looking for certain signs, you can decipher the other person's feelings. If they're gazing into your eyes and smiling, there's a good chance they'll be receptive to a kiss.
Teasing, making jokes, and giving you a lot of attention are also good signs. If you want someone to kiss you, give them a clue by flirting and getting close physically. Find an excuse to touch them. If they're still reticent, simply tell them you want to kiss them. Even if they're not interested, they'll be flattered, and it's very unlikely they'll run away screaming.
If things go wrong
So your confidence hasn't failed you, but what if your technique does? Well hopefully it won't if you've read article 'How to Kiss Someone Passionately'. But as it's your first time, things may not go exactly according to plan. So you might find you end up banging teeth, or getting a bit too sloppy. If any of this happens, just laugh it off... and if the other person is cruel about it, they're probably not worth kissing anyway.
Imagine
Don't worry. We've all got an in-built ability to kiss - even primates do it. So it's a natural phenomenon,a bit like breathing, that is difficult to get wrong, and takes a surprisingly little amount of thought.
Evolution and Mother Nature are on your side - a powerful combination, when all that's going against you are a few nerves, and maybe bad breath. Get yourself in the right frame of mind. Instead of dwelling on potential problems, imagine everything going really well. And when the big moment arrives your positive thinking will take over.
Make it happen
Shyness is a natural part of your first kiss, and this will only be made more embarrassing by having an audience. Do what you can to escape sniggering friends and find some privacy.
If you're so shy you find it difficult to even be near the person you secretly like, think of various kissing related games, such as 'spin the bottle' - where you spin a bottle on the ground, and whoever it points at, you must kiss. Or play Sardines, which doesn't involve kissing, but gives you the chance to seek out the person you want to kiss and hide with them. If it's December, use Christmas to your advantage and grab some mistletoe.
The signs
Try not to worry about rejection, because by looking for certain signs, you can decipher the other person's feelings. If they're gazing into your eyes and smiling, there's a good chance they'll be receptive to a kiss.
Teasing, making jokes, and giving you a lot of attention are also good signs. If you want someone to kiss you, give them a clue by flirting and getting close physically. Find an excuse to touch them. If they're still reticent, simply tell them you want to kiss them. Even if they're not interested, they'll be flattered, and it's very unlikely they'll run away screaming.
If things go wrong
So your confidence hasn't failed you, but what if your technique does? Well hopefully it won't if you've read article 'How to Kiss Someone Passionately'. But as it's your first time, things may not go exactly according to plan. So you might find you end up banging teeth, or getting a bit too sloppy. If any of this happens, just laugh it off... and if the other person is cruel about it, they're probably not worth kissing anyway.
Basic tips for kissing
Kissing is very fun and refreshing activity. Beginners however, due to the lack of confidence, are afraid of kissing. There are so many different ways to kiss. The two main basic ones are close-mouthed kissing and French kissing. French kissing involves an open mouth and with tongue, while close-mouthed kissing is pretty self-explanatory. We thought it would be easier for first-time kissers if they knew at least the kissing basics before they try to approach other kisses, such as French kissing. You can also play the game of kissing. This can be very exciting and romantic, but do it as you gain experience in kissing.Great Breath
This is very important. Make sure you brush your teeth before going out on your date. There is nothing worse than kissing someone with bad breath. If your date consists of having something to eat before the actual kiss, make sure you have a mint on hand to take right after you finish eating. If you have to kiss while eating mint, simply sallow it, your partner don't even recognize it. Don't take the mint just before the kiss or chew on gum. You don't want to have something in your mouth when you kiss.
Moist Lips
You want your lips to be slightly moist when you kiss. Run your tongue over your lips once before you kiss. Don't wear lip gloss because that tends to make the kiss too gooey. And don't wear a lot of lipstick unless you want your partner to wear it too after the kiss. Slightly moist lips makes it easier to move your lips over your partner's and gives both you and your partner a more pleasant experience.
Sallow during kiss
Sallow few times during kissing. This makes your partner feel more connected. It also develops the confidence of your partner in you. This is the act of totally accepting the partner.
Positioning
Stand close to your partner. As the two of you move closer together tilt your head slightly to one side. If you don't, don't worry about it. Your partner will still tilt their head slightly so your lips meet on a slight angle or they will kiss you straight on. If you can see which way your partner's head is tilting, tilt your head slightly in the opposite direction.
Close Eyes
Just before your lips meet, close your eyes. Some people prefer to leave their eyes open during the kiss. But until you know what your partner prefers, it is best to close your eyes. Kissing with your eyes open, looking into one another's eyes while you kiss, can be very erotic and some people find it quite enjoyable. You may want to try kissing this way once you're more comfortable kissing your partner.
Open Lips
Open your mouth slightly and place your lips over your partner's lips. Do not hold your breath! Breath through your nose. As your lips meet, press them gently over your partner's. You may wish to move your lips in a slow, circular motion or just leave them still over your partners.
Closed Lips
This is like the type of kiss you'd give your grandma or aunt. Instead of opening your mouth when your lips meet, keep them closed. This is also a good way of letting your partner know this is as far as it goes. It also makes a great hello/good-bye kiss or a great first time kiss if you're nervous.
Hands
There are many ways you can use your hands during a kiss. The most popular way is to put one hand on your partner's waist and the other one against the middle of their back. Other ways to use your hands are to cup your partner's face in your hands (very romantic!), put them around your partner's neck, put them around their waist, hold your partner's upper or lower arms gently, run your finger's through their hair, or just hold their hands in yours.
And there you have it, the basics of kissing! When you try to put them all together in your mind it makes it seem like kissing is very difficult. But when you actually apply them in real life it's quite easy. Kissing is a natural response to show affection for someone and if done with someone you really care about it will feel totally natural.
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